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unspoken language Had some interesting, yet insightful discussions recently. How we perceive being touched or touching. Personally, I don’t really consider myself to be a touchy-feely kind of person, however, I THINK I’m affectionate. That doesn‘t mean that I‘m big on the idea of public displays of affection (groping each other in public is NOT cool)--but holding hands as you go for a walk is not beyond me. Reaching out to touch someone -- demonstrating that physical connection is essential, for me. It is part of who I am, without even thinking about it. I guess it differs for each person. Having someone run their fingers through my hair could turn me into putty in their hands-- is extremely relaxing! Perhaps, because it is something my mom used to do. I used to have rather long hair and my mom would bathe me and then brush my hair until it was dry. If you are not accustomed to being touched, I suppose it could be overwhelming and misconceived. I know recently, my expressions of affection were seen that way--which was frustrating. I wanted to show affection--HE figured I simply had an insatiable $exual appetite and just couldn’t get enough! Really though, how comforting is it to have your significant other (for no reason) just touch you? I can’t possibly be alone in that sometimes I would touch my significant other and admire him with my hands. It should be a two-way street. Whether it is just that they put their hand on you or gently caress exposed skin--nothing $exual intended…It is an unspoken language all of its own. Here would be an ideal end to a long day at work: having someone run a hot bubble bath, soaking to de-stress for a bit, then they would come back in and wash my hair… having nice hot towels ready for the bathtub exit…(you can fill in the rest) I’ve done this sort of thing for my significant other (we teach people how to treat us, right?) but have yet to have anyone return the favour. *sigh* 
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You're probably right--I guess I will once I start looking  And, I FIRMLY believe we teach people how to treat us. We set the ground rules for what is acceptable to us and what is not. Happy Sunday to you too!
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