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Spitballs and Inkwells  I recently read a book called The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck. The author, Mark Manson, makes the point that too many people care too much about too many things, and this makes them miserable. They, in turn, make everyone around them miserable. I’m not doing the book justice with such a shallow summation, but it’ll do for the purposes of this post. When we’re young, life is exciting, and we have the energy to deeply invest in everything. We care about what people think, how they react, what they might say. We want to fit in, be part of the cool crowd. As we get older, we start to realize that the majority of the people and things we were so concerned about haven’t really affected our lives in any lasting way. As our identity continues to solidify, we accept who we are and no longer care as much what people think about us. This is where the subtlety comes into play. Not giving a f*ck doesn’t mean being indifferent. Apathy is usually a mask for fear or laziness or cruelty. In contrast, you shouldn’t care so much about what people might think, what consequences could come, and be confident in your choices and in who you are. I came on this site to, as its name says, find friends. Not a soulmate, not an LTR, just buddies with whom I can BS and goof off. I like hanging out in the chat room and meeting people. I’m not trying to impress anyone, and I certainly don’t expect to be catered to. I make goofy jokes and weird references, try to ask good questions and find common interests. Do I like everyone I meet? No. Does everyone adore me? They should (I’m adorable), but they don’t. *shrug* That’s just life, and I’m okay with that. If I wasn’t, I’d be spending my time sniping at other members that “done me wrong.” Because that’s so productive. <-- That was sarcasm if the italics didn’t make it obvious. “Oh no!” I’d say. “Alt-Account Anonymous made a scurrilous remark about me! And Anonymous Alt-Account concurred! On my honor, I must redress this calumny!” And yes, the voice in my head really does talk that way. What would follow would be a tedious blog war or a Jets and Sharks standoff in the chat room. (West Side Story. Look it up, .) People throwing insults around (like spitballs!) and getting revenge for some perceived slight (like dipping pigtails into inkwells!) is so freaking boring. I once opined that pointless drama was a person’s way of telling you “I have way too much time on my hands.” Go find something worthwhile to pour that passion into rather than catfighting online. Because we don’t give a f*ck. |
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4/11/2019 4:41 am |
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I'm imagining you talking like that to yourself now! Leave the trolls where they belong! Ignoring them is the best way, or leave a message for them to read at some time and see how they react! It can be fun! Or very tiring! They start something, but they never follow through!  Oh well, wish they would just let me have fun with friends and keep their opinions to themselves ! It is true...misery loves company! I'm allergic to misery! achoooooo! Have a productive day, good sir!
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though words are great to read,,i feel the theme is a day dream
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