Blog : BETTER TO END RELATIONSHIP / FRIENDSHIP ?

769 posts
5/6/2019 7:53 am

BETTER TO END RELATIONSHIP / FRIENDSHIP ?

Before 2 days i had a fight with some one in the chat room and compelled me to end our friendship which i never wanted. Reason was not even very important.Every morning when i was logging ion the chat room i was finding not a page ...but pages full of posts from her own friends containing the matter and words totally demeaning her.Literally every night ! And also in her absence I tried my level best to bring this issue to her notice but failed to make her take any cognisance. And i wasn't with any other option than to say ' GOODBYE '

One of the keys to a happy and healthy friendship/relationship is honest communication with your partner. Having an honest friendship/relationship means speaking up regardless of whether your partner agrees with you or not. But you don't have to let your fear of conflict get in the way of having an honest relationship. There are some things you can do.

The true mark of an open and honest friendship/relationship is the ability to communicate your feelings when the going gets tough, and to trust your partner will be responsive to your thoughts,. It takes bravery and vulnerability on both parts.

The reality is, you and your partner are going to disagree on some things. If you're in a relationship, you can pretty much expect for there to be conflict. But fighting, if done productively, can be healthy.

As tempting as it is to keep your feelings to yourself in order to avoid conflict, it's more important to be open with your partner. So letting my FF Friends know my views on what you can do to have a more open and honest relationship when conflict makes you anxious,

Find someone judgement-free, who can help you think through your values and decide which issues are worth risking conflict over. But don't expect such someone atleast in FF..They will make a show of helping you on your face but will try to make conflict worse on your back.

Emotional check-ins can be done daily, weekly, or whenever you feel like bringing something up. The point is for both of you to air any grievances respectfully and calmly, Knowing you have a specific time and forum for sharing any conflicts or issues can be really comforting and anxiety-reducing. It's also good because it gives you some time to formulate what you want to say so you can express yourself in a way won't lead to an argument.

So often, the conflict is much worse in our heads than in reality, Our brains trick on us, triggering the amygdala’s fight or flight response when there is no immediate threat of harm. Sometimes you might feel like bringing an issue up will lead to a major fight, but 's not always the case. The best way to break out of the negative thinking is to ground yourself in what's really going on. Really think about whether bringing up this issue is going to make or break your relationship. If it isn't bad, you shouldn't have anything to worry about.

If you want to have an honest relationship but you're afraid of causing a fight, start by sharing how you're feeling. When you use "I" statements such as "I feel like..." you're sharing how you feel and not placing blame on your partner. Be brave and practice,The first time you reveal your 'meh' feelings is bound to cause a little anxiety. But the more you share and see your partner is still on board, the easier navigating conflict will be.

It's vitally important you share your feelings with a desire to learn and understand, rather than as a way of blaming and controlling your partner to get them to change. If you want to share your feelings without causing any problems, don't expect any kind of outcome. You put your feelings out there. Now it's up to your partner to decide if they want to make an effort to change or work it out.

and if you found your partner is not taking any cognisance..walk on my way. Say 'GOODBYE '.

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300 posts
5/6/2019 7:56 am

But never forget.... to Say ' GOODBYE ' by this way is always very painful !

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