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II'm jealous because youre better than me Aug 16, 2008 11:38 pm
Mood: jealous, 261 Views
We live in a culture that's obsessed with self-esteem.
A person can achieve no greater thing than believe in their
own special importance - or so we're told. Do you realize
that your level of self-esteem influences not only the
way you think about yourself, but also, the manner in which
you behave on a regular basis? Although the truth behind
how we develop our level of self-esteem is surrounded by
fact and fiction, it remains a fact that our self-esteem
is an integral part of our lives...

Best regards, Clarencio

Enjoy each moment!

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Ships passing through the night! Aug 31, 2008 11:56 am
Mood: adventurous, 262 Views
Another night out on the midnight sea; It wears on you, where you can only take it so long. Sun tan, drink in hand. Lady has a set of oar's that'll knock you off your feet. Yeah! that girl will ease anyones aching love.

There's always more than meets the eye, sometimes a smile hides a lie. Papa don't know what to do, Huh! Find a love pure & true; or She'll have you stealing stars from above, an digging diamonds from a mine.

Yeah! That's cold hearted loving when you are scratching like a dog outside the door; wanting to do it again!

Young man uses his ship an buys a diamond ring. Takes it back across the water to see what love it brings; You can't buy my soul with Gold, but my heart is up for hire.

Listen Mr.; I'm so happy to be with you, doing the things we do. As the world passes by; You, you have always been here, a feeling deep inside. The voice in your head, keeps turning out, turning out the things that we said. It only takes a heart beat baby to say, good bye.

There she goes dressed at midnight. That girl is gone, she ain't coming back; The love we had call it yesterday. Now is now today is today. I been here before, no love noway no more! Am I just a fool to fall for love?

So out of reach, so far away, I want this woman and I can't keep away. I seen love before and I can't take this any more. No no no. I'm still here waiting, wasting all my time, knowing that woman is on my mine!!!

Touch my soul to find out wrong from right.
I ought to leave, but my heart need to keep her; she has that loving, the love that gives me peace of mind.

Lite a candle and sat it on the bow. Like wax tear drops fall. How you drink your wine, oh Miss Blue jean time to forget.

LA was a good time, had a ton of fun, Mexico had a good breeze. Katrina rocked the heck out of New Orleans. & If you can't find me now, the Good Lord pushed the breeze in my sail to bring me home; South Bay, where my dream is sleeping in that Golden southern California High Desert; Back in the State where I come from.

Come on baby come with me, Come on now, time to dance. The love we have has been under the bridge long enough. Lets bring it out and try something now. Come on babe lets do it right whoo hoo; Owe baby the way you touched my heart was a beautiful time of my life before I left you behind...

Best regards, Clarencio

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Developing our personalities in eight stages. Jun 20, 2008 7:00 pm
Mood: amused, 706 Views
Identity and the Life Cycle Written By Erik Erikson

The ways in which our lives inter mesh are terribly complex. But ignoring them is to ignore something vitally important about our development and our personalities.

The first Stage
Infancy or the oral-sensory stage, is approximately the first
year or year and a half of life. The task is to develop trust without completely
eliminating the capacity for mistrust.

If mom and dad can give the newborn a degree of familiarity, consistency, and
continuity, then the child will develop the feeling that the world -- especially
the social world -- is a safe place to be, that people are reliable and loving.

One of the signs that a child is doing well in the first stage is when the child
isn't overly upset by the need to wait a moment for the satisfaction of his or her
needs.

Worse, of course, is the child whose balance is tipped way over on the mistrust
side: They will develop the malignant tendency of withdrawal, characterized by
depression, paranoia, and possibly psychosis.

If the proper balance is achieved, the child will develop the virtue hope, the
strong belief that, even when things are not going well, they will work out well
in the end.

Stage two

The second stage is the anal-muscular stage of early childhood, from about
eighteen months to three or four years old. The task is to achieve a degree of
autonomy while minimizing shame and doubt.

Now a toddler, to explore and manipulate his or her environment, the child will
develop a sense of autonomy or independence. This way, the child will develop
both self-control and self-esteem. It is rather easy for the child to develop
instead a sense of shame and doubt. We should keep in mind that even something as
innocent as laughting at the toddler's efforts can lead the child to feel deeply
ashamed, and to doubt his or her abilities.

Nevertheless, a little "shame and doubt" is not only inevitable, but beneficial.
Without it, you will develop the maladaptive tendency called impulsiveness, a
sort of shameless willfulness that leads you, in later childhood and even
adulthood, to jump into things without proper consideration of your abilities.
If you get the proper, positive balance of autonomy and shame and doubt, you will
develop the virtue of willpower or determination.

Stage three

Stage three is the genital-locomotor stage or play age. From three or four to
five or six, the task confronting every child is to learn initiative without too
much guilt.

Initiative means a positive response to the world's challenges, taking on
responsibilities, learning new skills, feeling purposeful. Too much initiative and
too little guilt means a maladaptive tendency called ruthlessness. The ruthless
person takes the initiative alright; They have their plans, whether it's a matter
of school or romance or politics or career. It's just that they don't care who
they step on to achieve their goals. Ruthlessness is bad for others, but actually
relatively easy on the ruthless person. Harder on the person is the malignancy of
too much guilt, which is called inhibition. The inhibited person will not try
things because "nothing ventured, nothing lost" On the sexual, side, the
inhibited person may be impotent or frigid.

A good balance leads to the psychosocial strength of purpose.

Stage four

Stage four is the latency stage, or the school-age child from about six to twelve.
The task is to develop a capacity for industry while avoiding an excessive sense
of inferiority. Children must "tame the imagination" and dedicate themselves to
education and to learning the social skills their society requires of them.

Too much industry leads to the maladaptive tendency called narrow virtuosity. We
see this in children who aren't allowed to "be children," the ones that parents
or teachers push into one area of competence, without allowing the development of
broader interests.

Much more common is the malignancy called inertia. This includes all of us who
suffer from the "inferiority complexes" Alfred Adler talked about. If at first
you don't succeed, don't ever try again! Many of us didn't do well in mathematics,
for example, so we'd die before we took another math class.

A happier thing is to develop the right balance of industry and inferiority --
that is, mostly industry with just a touch of inferiority to keep us sensibly
humble. Then we have the virtue called competency.

Stage five

Stage five is adolescence, beginning with puberty and ending around 18 or 20 years
old. The task during adolescence is to achieve ego identity and avoid role
confusion.

Ego identity means knowing who you are and how you fit in to the rest of society.
It requires that you take all you've learned about life and yourself and mold it
into a unified self-image, one that your community finds meaningful.

Further, society should provide clear rites of passage, certain accomplishments
and rituals that help to distinguish the adult from the child. Fidelity means
loyalty, the ability to live by societies standards despite their imperfections
and incompleteness and inconsistencies. But fidelity means that you have found a
place in that community, a place that will allow you to contribute.

Stage six

If you have made it this far, you are in the stage of young adulthood, which lasts
from about 18 to about 30. The ages in the adult stages are much fuzzier than in
the childhood stages, and people may differ dramatically. The task is to achieve
some degree of intimacy, as opposed to remaining in isolation.

Promiscuity, referring particularly to the tendency to become intimate too freely,
too easily, and without any depth to your intimacy. exclusion, which refers to the
tendency to isolate oneself from love, friendship, and community, and to develop
a certain hatefulness in compensation for one's loneliness.

If you successfully negotiate this stage, you will instead carry with you for the
rest of your life the virtue or psychosocial strength called love. Love, in the
context of this theory, means being able to put aside differences and antagonisms
through "mutuality of devotion." It includes not only the love we find in a good
marriage, but the love between friends and the love of one's neighbor, co-worker,
and compatriot as well.

Stage seven

The seventh stage is that of middle adulthood. It is hard to pin a time to it, but
it would include the period during which we are actively involved in raising
children. For most people in our society, this would put it somewhere between the
middle twenties and the late fifties. The task here is to cultivate the proper
balance of generativity and stagnation.

It is perhaps hard to imagine that we should have any "stagnation" in our lives,
but the maladaptive tendency called overextension illustrates the problem:
Some people try to be so generative that they no longer allow time for themselves,
for rest and relaxation. The person who is overextended no longer contributes
well. I'm sure we all know someone who belongs to so many clubs, or is devoted to
so many causes, or tries to take so many classes or hold so many jobs that they
no longer have time for any of them!

And much of what we call "the meaning of life" is a matter of how we participate
and what we contribute. This is the stage of the "midlife crisis." We try to
recapture our youth. Men are often the most flambouyant examples: They leave their
long-suffering wives, quit their humdrum jobs, buy some "hip" new clothes, and
start hanging around singles bars. Of course, they seldom find what they are
looking for, because they are looking for the wrong thing!

But if you are successful at this stage, you will have a capacity for caring that
will serve you through the rest of your life.

Stage eight

This last stage, referred to delicately as late adulthood or maturity, or less
delicately as old age, begins sometime around retirement, after the kids have
gone, say somewhere around 60. Some older folks will protest and say it only
starts when you feel old and so on.

The task is to develop ego integrity with a minimal amount of despair. This stage,
especially from the perspective of youth, seems like the most difficult of all.
First comes a detachment from society, from a sense of usefulness, for most people
in our culture. Some retire from jobs they've held for years; others find their
duties as parents coming to a close.

Then there is a sense of biological uselessness, as the body no longer does
everything it used to. Women go through a sometimes dramatic menopause; Men
often find they can no longer "rise to the occasion." Then there are the
illnesses of old age, such as arthritis, diabetes, heart problems,
concerns about breast and ovarian and prostrate cancers. There come fears about
things that one was never afraid of before -- the flu, for example, or just
falling down.

Stage eight is called presumption. This is what happens when a person "presumes"
ego integrity without actually facing the difficulties of old age. Someone who
approaches death without fear has the strength called wisdom. It's a gift to
children, because "healthy children will not fear life if their elders have
integrity enough not to fear death. A person must be somewhat gifted to be truly
wise, but I would like to suggest that you understand "gifted" in as broad a
fashion as possible: I have found that there are people of very modest gifts who
have taught me a great deal, not by their wise words, but by their simple and
gentle approach to life and death, by their "generosity of spirit."

Please leave a comment about your Stages you've seen?

Best regards, Claencio
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Jud Oct 26, 2008 9:35 pm
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Where do we go from here
There must be something near
Changing you, changing me forever
Places change, faces change

Life is so very strange
Changing time, changing lies together
There's nowhere else to go.
This could be our last show
Changing dreams changing schemes.

We're never satisfied
Life has gone along with fun
Now we're reaching for the sun
Changing cash, changing fast
No more together
We are never satisfied
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SUCCESS & DIRECTION Aug 4, 2008 12:42 am
Mood: courageous, 303 Views
SUCCESS - Success always occurs in private and failure in full view.

DIRECTION - Find your aim in life berore you run out of ammunition.

Best regards, Clarencio
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Mark Twain Jul 26, 2008 3:33 pm
Mood: adventurous, 341 Views
A quote I like to share:
"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines, Sail away from the safe harbor an Catch the trade winds in your sails, Explore. Dream & Discover."
By: Mark Twain
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MANAGEMENT, UNDER ACHIEVEMENT, SCAPEGOAT Jul 25, 2008 1:03 am
Mood: Misunderstood, 374 Views
MANAGEMENT
Chaos, Panic, & Disorder, My Work Here is Done

UNDER ACHIEVEMENT
The Tallest Blade Of Grass
Is the First To Be Cut By The Lawnmower

SCAPEGOAT
The Secret To Success is Knowing Who To Blame

Best regards, Clarencio

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CONFORMITY, WISDOM, STRIFE Jul 17, 2008 11:50 pm
Mood: Chilling, 446 Views
CONFORMITY
When people are free to do as they please
They usually imitate each other.

WISDOM
There are no stupid questions
Only stupid people

STRIFE
As long as we have each other, we'll never run out of problems

Best regards, Clarencio

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Recovery from a broken marriage Jul 14, 2008 11:56 pm
Mood: beautiful, 453 Views
Once upon a time there was a Medic that met a lady on the net. They fell in love, married, and thought they'd live happily ever after. Remember the line in Forest Gump? My Momma used to say, Life was like a box of chocolates. You never know what you're gonna get. Broke up, no good bye. It was time for drooping and living high and dry.

It was a refreshing experience recovering from a broken marriage.

Best regards, Clarencio

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The Cerebral Cortex Jun 19, 2008 1:41 pm
Mood: cheerful, 566 Views
The cerebral cortex is a structure within the brain that plays a key role in
memory, attention, perceptual awareness, thought, language, and consciousness.

It appears in evolution that humans evolve new functional areas of neocortex that
are responsible for enhanced cognitive skills when selecting friends to bond with.

It's a distinguishing feature of mammals; it has been found in the brains of all
mammals, but not in any other animals.
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