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___7___ 59M

6/23/2006 7:12 am

Yes...they can be just friends...I have lots of female friends...and that is all they are...just friends.

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SunnyDaze55
(Sunny Daze)
68F

6/23/2006 7:19 am

I have a few male friends, and find great joy in their friendship!

Sincerely Yours


FeuDesAstres 68M
1250 posts
6/23/2006 9:34 am

Yep ... I've got friends that are just friends ... have been for decades. And it obviously works both ways for all of us in the group.


SHE160905 112F

6/23/2006 10:02 am

YES, men and women can be just (platonic) friends....

I have some good male friends and we really remain friends...... we have never crossed the border of a friendship that could lead to more than friendship. And I am very happy with this kind of relationship.

Wanna join me for a glass of wine?


cutesmile216 59F
1402 posts
6/23/2006 11:20 am

Yes they can be friends, it is just now that I am single many of the male friends that I had before can't adjust to my being single. I have no problem with them, nor do I have anymore feelings for them than before. I have had one of my male friends tell me (now that I am single) that he would like our relationship to be more if he was not married. He is such a big flirt, but I am his sweetie and his wife knows some of the story. Secrets. All are harmless, I don't get involved with married men I have strong values on that. My feelings for them don't go beyond anything but friendship and I make that very clear to them.
Some of the men in my life are married to some of my best friends, so we all have a great relationship.
I like to remain friends with all the men I had dated.
Take care
Smile


AtlanticShore 71M

6/23/2006 1:59 pm

Yes !!! Men and women can be platonic friends. Sometimes that can be better than a relationship. Real friends are always there for you. For comfort or to share both your happiness and sadness.

When relationships end, you never associate with that person again...even though they always tell you "We'll still be friends"


DAZZLE71
(E M)
51F

6/23/2006 3:40 pm

I have often remained friends with guys I have dated which is great and my husband is so cool with that.
But the thing is, I have found that more often than not men I have as friends will at some point let me know they wish we were more than friends!
My husband is a case in point. We were friends for almost ten years before he finally revealed he had worshipped me all that time! He had got married and had children and separated and now he says he had the courage to finally tell me. So now we have been together for six years and he is my best friend too!
So I take each friendship as a separate case- you cannot universally say yes or no to whether or not men and women can be plutonic friends.


___7___ 59M

6/23/2006 4:54 pm

Hmmmmmm...my fingers ain't burnin yet...maybe she didn't mean me...*shrugs*

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Prettytall000 66F

6/23/2006 7:30 pm

That's a very touching story, Dazzle! wow!


allwoman4ever
(allwoman )
61F

6/23/2006 9:07 pm

My oldest and dearest friend of over 25 years is a man. I would lay my life down for him. Indeed men and women CAN be just friends.


fiestygirl72
(Dora B)
51F

6/23/2006 11:43 pm

I have more male friends and my fiancee has more female friends. I do believe men and women can be JUST friends.


Mark573042
(Mark )
49M

6/24/2006 1:53 pm

Well i have a lot more female friends than male - which has it's good points. I can ask them about relationships from a woman's point of view, and i know they'll be totally honest, and likewise they can ask me about blokes. We can chat about what's gone wrong or why X did this or that!

I have one really close friend who i'd do anything for. All the blokes at work fancied her something rotten and even tho i told her that she was very attractive i wasn't going to do anything because she was my friend. I then said that if things were different then maybe but was happy things the way they are. We're still friends and chat online now that she has moved away. She has a boyfriend etc but we still keep in touch.


slim85jr
(David D)
38M

6/24/2006 8:34 pm

I have plenty of ladys that are just my freinds,and we have come to the conclusion that it would probably ruin our relationships


SHE160905 112F

6/25/2006 3:54 am

    Quoting ___7___:
    Hmmmmmm...my fingers ain't burnin yet...maybe she didn't mean me...*shrugs*

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Hey 7, I am as curious as Miss INGRID here.

Tell us Hun about your fingers who ain't burning yet! And how to make them burn?

Wanna join me for a glass of wine?


bunnyb1968
(bonnie )
56F
160 posts
6/25/2006 4:12 pm

yes i do have alot of male friends


hemogram1234
(tim )
61M

6/26/2006 4:59 am

No, men will use that ploy in an attempt to get into a woman's pants. I will tell you a thought that has never entered a man's mind: " I should go over and talk to that woman, I bet she has a great personality."


jewel1979 44F

6/26/2006 3:07 pm

emphatically yes! men and women can be just platonic friends. u learn a lot from each other. no matter what, no knowledge is lost.


domedome2
(Jim B)
60M

6/28/2006 9:28 pm

Yes, yes, yes and No. Its so different with everybody and their circumstances. When it comes to more than just friends, there is just no was to control emotions, or what will happen to the relationship!


redcee 67F

7/5/2006 9:31 am

Most definitely, men are really good friends! I've got mostly male friends and it's really comfortable being able to share all sorts of things with them ... they learn from me and I from them. I've also discovered men are more likely to keep a confidence than some gal friends I've knownn (no offense to you trustworthy ladies, please) and they're more willing to give a candid opinion on things too.


jjriggs 61M

7/6/2006 1:29 pm

Of course men and women can be friends! I disagree though with "Sharkdiver36"!! If a man and a woman are good friends, then one or the other having a relationship outside of that friendship should not cause any problems, jealousy, whatever? Infact they should be able to talk, at least to some degree about their individual relationships, without one or the other feeling threatened in any way whatsoever!!


Jules_79 44F

7/15/2006 2:02 am

I must admit I had problems with this issue a lot. My guy's best friend is a girl which I cannot stand. It did bother me a lot until I read a book on relationships (written by an ordinary woman) and I got an answer for my question. And now? I don't give a damn about his female friends anymore.