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debutanteBaltimr 55M
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9/5/2009 1:53 pm

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My Aunt Died


My dad called this morning and passed on the sad news to me. My aunt Alice and my step uncle had been living in Arizona. I would visit her when I was out there but it has been years since I have been out there. I live thousands of miles away. My youngest sister lives in Arizona and she called my dad in Maryland to let him know. I will get my cousins' emails from her on Tuesday so that I can find out their addresses in Illinois and send condolances. My aunt was a very talented artist. She was barely into her 70's. I have read about many of your losses here in these blogs and they all serve to remind me of my own mortality, as do the news of celebrities who continue to die, often at a young age. I am not sure yet on what she died from. She apparently suffered from food poisoning while visiting Chicago a couple of months ago and was having a tough time recovering from that but I do not know if that could have had anything to do with her death or not. I am sorry to hear of her death, but I can only imagine the grief that her sons must be feeling, and the grief that her sister (my mother) must be feeling. I am fortunate that both of MY parents are still alive, and that there is still a possibility that I may die before them. (Am I selfish or WHAT?)

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sunlover1950 64F
8801 posts

9/5/2009 2:34 pm

I'm sorry your aunt couldn't live longer...Death sometimes comes in a ridiculous way. My condolences, Balti...Don't wish to die before your parents. It will be such a tragedy for them...

SL

All I need is sun...


Lornas_back 59F

9/5/2009 3:07 pm

There are so many reasons and possibilities why a person dies but know in your heart that they are only passing on from this space onto whatever. You aren't selfish you feel what you feel and it isn't wrong because you feel it.
Bigs hugs to you about losing your aunt.


stop and smell the flowers along your way. take your shoes off and walk in the grass.


R0SEDEW
(Rose )
54F
1772 posts

9/5/2009 3:10 pm



As dark as today may seem to you,
just remember that eventually there will be brighter days ahead for you.

Hang on to that hope as you work through this most difficult time.

You have my deepest sympathy.
I will keep your aunt, you, and your family in my prayers.

R0SEDEW





Miss Me - But Let Me Go

When I come to the end of the road,
and the sun has set me free
I want no rites in a gloom filled room
Why cry for a soul set free?

Miss me a little - but not too long,
and not with your head bowed low,
Remember the love that we once shared,
Miss me - but let me go,

For this journey that we all must take,
and each must go alone,
It’s all a part of the Master’s plan
A step on the road home

When you are lonely and sick at heart
Go to the hills we know,
and bury your sorrow among the trees
Miss me - but let me go.

~ Unknown ~




roshni70 45F
2598 posts

9/5/2009 3:28 pm

sorry for your loss..


gowerboy 45M

9/5/2009 7:35 pm

Sorry for your loss.


gorgeous_asian2 33F
8503 posts

9/5/2009 9:48 pm

so sorry for your loss.i know the feelings.
hang in there DB.

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driverdan 102M
28286 posts

9/5/2009 10:40 pm

god bless your loved ones deb, sorry for your families loss,..my thoughts and prayers are with you,..dan

"hopeful romantic, reality keeps me grounded but it can`t stop me from dreaming" ~dan


Enkantada08
(joan jones)
37F

9/5/2009 11:14 pm

we are the same
my mum she is passed away months ago?


'' love it come's without expectation''


Tonguesosharp 35F

9/6/2009 1:22 am

Condolensces on your loss but remember the words of Desirato (will check spelling on that )

O not stand at my grave and weep i did not die I simply sleep


Tonguesosharp 35F

9/6/2009 1:25 am

This is one version:

Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there; I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sun on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there; I did not die.

of course there are many


beta34 50F

9/6/2009 1:26 am

I am sorry, I hope you get finding the addresses to send your condolences. I brings comfort to be remembered.


LovebuginCT 59F

9/6/2009 4:13 am

Sorry you are going thru this sad time, my friend. Hugs...

DONNA THE LOVEBUG IN CONNECTICUT


Hazeliis 57F
801 posts

9/6/2009 5:09 am

Sorry to hear about your loss. Some things get easier with age through experience. However, I have found that in dealing with loss of life never gets easier for those of us still left behind. I have lost 4 of my brothers. It made no difference to why, how or when....the grief still cut deap into my heart. I hope that you out live your parents. I only have one son and if he left this world before me..... I would be devastated.

Take good care and may the wind carry you to beautiful places.

One knows when happiness is found, when one no longer seeks it.


snooker10061 53F

9/6/2009 2:28 pm

I am very sorry for your loss.


wander_in_star 59M
3132 posts

9/6/2009 5:28 pm

You are not being selfish. You just don't want to be sad.

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explourer 45F
7792 posts

9/7/2009 11:28 am

My thoughts of comforts to you and condolences to your family,so sorry for your loss..

It is the truth in man that sets him free..


debutanteBaltimr 55M
18116 posts

9/8/2009 8:52 am

    Quoting sunlover1950:
    I'm sorry your aunt couldn't live longer...Death sometimes comes in a ridiculous way. My condolences, Balti...Don't wish to die before your parents. It will be such a tragedy for them...

    SL
Good point there...good point.

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debutanteBaltimr 55M
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9/8/2009 8:53 am

    Quoting Lornas_back:
    There are so many reasons and possibilities why a person dies but know in your heart that they are only passing on from this space onto whatever. You aren't selfish you feel what you feel and it isn't wrong because you feel it.
    Bigs hugs to you about losing your aunt.

You are right about that. We ALL shall one day pass on from this space and there is no escape.

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debutanteBaltimr 55M
18116 posts

9/8/2009 8:54 am

    Quoting R0SEDEW:



    As dark as today may seem to you,
    just remember that eventually there will be brighter days ahead for you.

    Hang on to that hope as you work through this most difficult time.

    You have my deepest sympathy.
    I will keep your aunt, you, and your family in my prayers.

    R0SEDEW




    Miss Me - But Let Me Go

    When I come to the end of the road,
    and the sun has set me free
    I want no rites in a gloom filled room
    Why cry for a soul set free?

    Miss me a little - but not too long,
    and not with your head bowed low,
    Remember the love that we once shared,
    Miss me - but let me go,

    For this journey that we all must take,
    and each must go alone,
    It’s all a part of the Master’s plan
    A step on the road home

    When you are lonely and sick at heart
    Go to the hills we know,
    and bury your sorrow among the trees
    Miss me - but let me go.

    ~ Unknown ~


B4autiful poem. Thank you for your condolances.

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debutanteBaltimr 55M
18116 posts

9/8/2009 8:55 am

Thank you.

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debutanteBaltimr 55M
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9/8/2009 8:57 am

    Quoting gorgeous_asian2:
    so sorry for your loss.i know the feelings.
    hang in there DB.
Thank you...hanging tough as always!

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debutanteBaltimr 55M
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9/8/2009 8:58 am

    Quoting driverdan:
    god bless your loved ones deb, sorry for your families loss,..my thoughts and prayers are with you,..dan
Thanks so much, Dan.

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debutanteBaltimr 55M
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9/8/2009 8:59 am

    Quoting Enkantada08:
    we are the same
    my mum she is passed away months ago?

So sorry for your loss. You HANG in there!

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debutanteBaltimr 55M
18116 posts

9/8/2009 8:59 am

    Quoting Tonguesosharp:
    Condolensces on your loss but remember the words of Desirato (will check spelling on that )

    O not stand at my grave and weep i did not die I simply sleep
Interesting quote there.

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debutanteBaltimr 55M
18116 posts

9/8/2009 9:00 am

    Quoting Tonguesosharp:
    This is one version:

    Do not stand at my grave and weep
    I am not there; I do not sleep.
    I am a thousand winds that blow,
    I am the diamond glints on snow,
    I am the sun on ripened grain,
    I am the gentle autumn rain.
    When you awaken in the morning's hush
    I am the swift uplifting rush
    Of quiet birds in circled flight.
    I am the soft stars that shine at night.
    Do not stand at my grave and cry,
    I am not there; I did not die.

    of course there are many
Cool one!

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debutanteBaltimr 55M
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9/8/2009 9:01 am

    Quoting beta34:
    I am sorry, I hope you get finding the addresses to send your condolences. I brings comfort to be remembered.
Yes it does.

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debutanteBaltimr 55M
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9/8/2009 9:02 am

    Quoting LovebuginCT:
    Sorry you are going thru this sad time, my friend. Hugs...
Thanks so much.

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debutanteBaltimr 55M
18116 posts

9/8/2009 9:04 am

    Quoting Hazeliis:
    Sorry to hear about your loss. Some things get easier with age through experience. However, I have found that in dealing with loss of life never gets easier for those of us still left behind. I have lost 4 of my brothers. It made no difference to why, how or when....the grief still cut deap into my heart. I hope that you out live your parents. I only have one son and if he left this world before me..... I would be devastated.

    Take good care and may the wind carry you to beautiful places.
None of us are immune from this. I take it for granted that my sisters will be around forever but there is no guarantee they will out live me.

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debutanteBaltimr 55M
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9/8/2009 9:05 am

Thank you very much.

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debutanteBaltimr 55M
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9/8/2009 9:05 am

    Quoting wander_in_star:
    You are not being selfish. You just don't want to be sad.
Very true!

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debutanteBaltimr 55M
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9/8/2009 9:06 am

    Quoting Mistytraveller:
    First condolences to you and your family. Secondly, no, you're not being selfish... Just thankful.
Thanks so much!

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debutanteBaltimr 55M
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9/8/2009 9:07 am

    Quoting explourer:
    My thoughts of comforts to you and condolences to your family,so sorry for your loss..
Thank you. Pretty BLING!

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sugaronly 37F

9/8/2009 5:06 pm

condolence...


debutanteBaltimr 55M
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9/9/2009 11:02 am

Thanks.

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l2us 75M
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9/9/2009 11:03 am

I pass this on to you: ..."Mourn not too long that she is gone, but rather, rejoice forever that she was.."

Having just recently traveled that path, I do understand, ...My condolences to you and your family. God Bless!

peace ... love ... tranquility ...

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debutanteBaltimr 55M
18116 posts

9/9/2009 11:03 am

    Quoting oldharleylover:
    sorry for your loss Raoul
    death escapes no one, and to not want to
    see another one is not selfish
    it's humane

    tonguesosharp said it very nicely,
    keep the good memories at hand...

    mark.
Thanks, Mark.

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