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11/18/2006 9:53 am |
oh Id sleep with them if i were you...life's too short.
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11/18/2006 11:47 am |
Nia.. do you really think so? I think you should too.. but that involves risk.. Risk of rejection... getting your heart broken.. feeling like a fool. I don't know smalltown guy.. i'm in the same debate about that myself... I tried to e-mail you smalltown guy... they won't let me cuz i'm just standard member.. Maybe you will have to e-mail me first.. don't know.. I really would like to talk to you though! I have IM.. maybe e-mail me and i can send my IM smalltown. Oneman.. you are so irrevelant dude! LOL.. yeah.. i concur.. life IS too short!!!!  I don't know.. what status of friendship are you in at present smalltown? Have u dated this person.. just know them from work.... or casually? I didn't realize that guys go thru any kind of stress trying to tell someone they liked them. Us girls.. we have to just wait for the guy to make any moves otherwise we appear desperate or too forward and most American guys don't seem to like that. I think nia is right... and so is one man.. life is too short.. tell them you like them and drag them off to bed!  Maybe they have been waiting for you to make the first move Smalltown.. Girls hate having to be the one to tell the guy she likes him first... It's seems unladylike.
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11/18/2006 11:54 am |
Well. i dunno smalltown guy.. Gosh. i'm starting to feel like i'm part of some kind of community here.. lol. I have the same question, sort of. How do you even KNOW if the guy likes you?? I have been known this guy for a short time. Sometime he calls and sometimes i don't hear from him for quite awhile.. I just wonder how he feels about me too. I really like his company and really like the guy.. but i don't want to force myself on him if he doesn't feel the same. I dunno.. guys are so hard to read.....
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11/18/2006 12:57 pm |
Let's see...telling them straight forward leaves open that rejection issue for me. Hinting is a possibility, providing they can catch on. Getting someone else to tell them is so elementary school. To wait and hope they contact me is limiting myself to all the other possibilities that could be staring me in the face. I choose other. Actually, kind of like oneman's response, lol. Just kidding.........maybe, lol.
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wait and hope ...wait and hope until ....feelings gone!lol if you worry, you didnt pray, if you pray dont worry Eimee 
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11/18/2006 9:13 pm |
hehehe eimee.. exactly.. or you are so worn out from waiting.. you are too tired to do anything with anyone anymore!! I hate waiting.. life is short.. just drag them off to bed.. and then before you leave in the morning..while they are still sleeping... leave a little note that says, "I like you!" LOL.. that way if they don't feel the same you won't be there to see it! LOL
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11/19/2006 3:42 am |
walks back into post and ducks instintively,from crouching position see's nothing but hormones bouncing from wall to wall from ceiling to floor.... .crawls back out of room for fear of getting clothes ripped off back...says a little prayer for the smalltown guy...only male left in the room....sorry id help but..... So whats it going to be big Guy from small town?,wait and wait and wait or sleep with them and get on with it...Go for it fella
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I offer the lady a ride home in my '59 Oldsmobile.....
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clarry both! ..waiting him to do the first move and if not happen well i guess i shud have to set him free from my heart till the feelings gone if you worry, you didnt pray, if you pray dont worry Eimee
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11/20/2006 12:22 am |
Manages to prize the smalltown guy's fingers off neatly pressed shirt collar,finger by finger..snorts in satisfaction,and stands with hands on hips in private defiance...then see's open window and leggs it... you know fella,there's a saying...Men play the game...but women..well they know the score...most women expect...i cant stress that word enough...Men to make the first move,it go's with the natural order of things to them...carrying on with the life's too short theory...faint heart never won fair Lady...you should find it easier online here to make a bold move...you may be pleasantly surprised by someones response...you say its a general question put out to tender...im inclined to believe there's more to it than that...by your replies id say its much more personal in its requirement for feedback... Your a nice guy fella...never intrusive,never on the edge...maybe too nice...now thats a post on its own,being too nice...if you really like someone...just go for it... Id say a few in here alone would be queing up if you were to open up a little more and put yourself about...your so very much liked.. I kind of get the feeling you wont be single for long....trust me. 
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11/20/2006 12:23 am |
I for one definately dont mind El,great comment agree word for word with you dear... 
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11/20/2006 12:25 am |
What can i say...im a fully paid up member of the self preservation society....i follow their instructions to the letter
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11/20/2006 1:15 am |
Welcome to the blogs elaine. No.. i agree I have to be myself too. But like i said before I spent at least an hour talking with this guy before I gave him my number. He seemed like he liked me, even called me to make sure I got home okay the first time we met, But.. he did ask alot of personal questioins about me. I prefer just to talk to someone first and get to know them. I don't have to put them on the witness stand either to figure out if they are cool people. Maybe he's doing what you suggested smalltown, "I do know some guys that don't want to know everything about the girl in the very beginning though. My best friend is like this.....if a girl dumps her entire past on him when they are just getting to know each other he won't continue seeing her. He just feels that things should be found over time after the two people get to know each other.....and no I am not referring to myself either! LOL Myself, I like to know what I'm getting upfront (in general) because I like knowing where I stand, and what to expect. I find that this works for me because it avoids wasting time. If I know "for sure" that I am not going to be compatible with someone I just cut it off to avoid wasting their time and mine. It's not that I hate them or dislike them as a person, its just not that they are for me......and if they are not for me, why bother trying to hold onto something that you feel is just not going to work? To me I can't find any sense in it." He doesn't always seem pleased with the answers I have provided about myself.. but why lie? I mean there's some things about him that don't sit perfectly right.. but I'm not judging him.. We all have pasts, some of us aren't perfect and some things are just completely beyond our control. I dunno. I just had the most sh[i!1l]tty week. : ( On top of it all. I've just worked a 12 hour day only to be told I WON'T be paid for it and that i'm not going to be giving any other assignments! If they don't pay me for today, I have no other choice than complain to the labor dept. I'm really tired of being screwed around by people. People need to be honest and respectful to people, not just use them for their own desires and then throw them out like yesterday's trash! Life sucks sometimes.
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11/20/2006 1:22 am |
okay oneman.. your quote, "you know fella,there's a saying...Men play the game...but women..well they know the score...most women expect...i cant stress that word enough...Men to make the first move,it go's with the natural order of things to them...carrying on with the life's too short theory...faint heart never won fair Lady...you should find it easier online here to make a bold move...you may be pleasantly surprised by someones response...you say its a general question put out to tender...im inclined to believe there's more to it than that...by your replies id say its much more personal in its requirement for feedback... Your a nice guy fella...never intrusive,never on the edge...maybe too nice...now thats a post on its own,being too nice...if you really like someone...just go for it... Id say a few in here alone would be queing up if you were to open up a little more and put yourself about...your so very much liked.. I kind of get the feeling you wont be single for long....trust me." Who is this addressed to anyway? She sits batting her eyelashes in a provocative manner.. hoping it would be moi! lol.. no seriously, sometimes i just don't understand people's intentions. Sometimes I need things spelled out to me clearly. I guess that comes from being a direct person myself. If i want to know something about someone, I will ask. IF i want them to do something with me, I will ask.. But this waiting game.. is getting old.. I do agree that Men do the asking. It's sort of a biological thing Oneman and has served mankind alright for many years. I know this is a brave new world and maybe that's why we all so confused now how to act with the opposite \bsexo?\b. Hey!.. If they wanted to pass a law saying it was alright for women to ask out men, it would be fine by me. Someone just has to tell me that it's been passed though! LOL Great blog as usual smalltown. I'm really enjoying being on the blogs here. Nice friendly crowd. Blog on people!!!
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11/20/2006 2:21 am |
okay oneman.. your quote, "you know fella,there's a saying...Men play the game...but women..well they know the score...most women expect...i cant stress that word enough...Men to make the first move,it go's with the natural order of things to them...carrying on with the life's too short theory...faint heart never won fair Lady...you should find it easier online here to make a bold move...you may be pleasantly surprised by someones response...you say its a general question put out to tender...im inclined to believe there's more to it than that...by your replies id say its much more personal in its requirement for feedback... Your a nice guy fella...never intrusive,never on the edge...maybe too nice...now thats a post on its own,being too nice...if you really like someone...just go for it... Id say a few in here alone would be queing up if you were to open up a little more and put yourself about...your so very much liked.. I kind of get the feeling you wont be single for long....trust me." Who is this addressed to anyway? She sits batting her eyelashes in a provocative manner.. hoping it would be moi! lol.. no seriously, sometimes i just don't understand people's intentions. Sometimes I need things spelled out to me clearly. I guess that comes from being a direct person myself. If i want to know something about someone, I will ask. IF i want them to do something with me, I will ask.. But this waiting game.. is getting old.. I do agree that Men do the asking. It's sort of a biological thing Oneman and has served mankind alright for many years. I know this is a brave new world and maybe that's why we all so confused now how to act with the opposite \bsexo?\b. Hey!.. If they wanted to pass a law saying it was alright for women to ask out men, it would be fine by me. Someone just has to tell me that it's been passed though! LOL Great blog as usual smalltown. I'm really enjoying being on the blogs here. Nice friendly crowd. Blog on people!!! ..it can be taken by anyone and anything... in all honesty..ok,you need things spelt out to you Enchantress...your search for love and a good Man in here cant be any more clearer...however...be aware...you will continue to get mix signals and lack of intention in return until you post a picture of yourself....you have a beautiful mind with a touch of a dirty weekend added to it (wow thats memories)anyways...the sad reality is you'll play the waiting game longer than you would were you to have a picture to show the boys what their gonna get... By the way,the law for awoman to make a pass at a Man came into effect years ago...i think the suffregette movement had something to do with it Enchantress...Dani(Nia) made a valid point...applies equally to Men and women...if you fancy someone...let them know,it really is that simple. firstly get in touch via mail or whatever...write your intentions to someone...make it clear you fancy them,and would like to get to know them better.... what the hell have you lost by doing that??,NOTHING,absolutely nothing...but what you achieve is helping out your fate,your destiny...treat people as adults,and you'll get an adult reply... Im sorry for posting so much in here smalltown guy...promise this is last from me on this post good luck fella...
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11/20/2006 3:02 am |
Okay, oneman. i see you are probably a few hours ahead of us in the states... but due to my non-probably unemployment status I've been unable to sleep.. Oh.. cud life get any sweeter??? ugh Nope, nope. my british friend, you misconstrue me totally: "ok,you need things spelt out to you Enchantress...your search for love and a good Man in here cant be any more clearer...however...be aware...you will continue to get mix signals and lack of intention in return until you post a picture of yourself....you have a beautiful mind with a touch of a dirty weekend added to it (wow thats memories)anyways...the sad reality is you'll play the waiting game longer than you would were you to have a picture to show the boys what their gonna get... By the way,the law for awoman to make a pass at a Man came into effect years ago...i think the suffregette movement had something to do with it Enchantress...Dani(Nia) made a valid point...applies equally to Men and women...if you fancy someone...let them know,it really is that simple." No, I'm NOT trying to find a guy on this website. I've given up on that notion....cuz it's totally a waste of time.. No one even lives on the same continent to me that I take a fancy to! or same country maybe..... I LIKE the ability to be anonymous and still post my innermost thoughts. I think that is one of the COOLEST things about the internet... to say whatever is on your mind and not have your neighbors/fellow employees/husband/boyfriend whatever known that you've said it. See.. you are totally missing the point. I suppose i cud create a whole new profile and post my pic and then say nothing.... I don't like having my picture up on these type of websites cuz I start to feel like i'm part of a cattle line. The guy goes down the profiles for women... oh, this one's blonde.. i like blondes better... oh.. this one has bigger bosum or longer legs.. or whatever, this one is under 27.. i like young chicks... it just feels so fake to me, plus there are alot of creeps on the internet. I don't think i fit the stereotype of the typical American beauty.. but that's perfectly fine. My family hasn't been here that long so i'm probably too ethnic lookin for most American guys tastes anyway. I'm not that kind of person who'd want to post their pic on the internet.. i'm just not... I get enough people around here judging me for how i think or act.. or where i'm from..(remember I live in the south, people down here can be VERY close-minded about stuff). i don't need them to judge me for not living up to whatever stupid standards of beauty they have. Oh.. what a shame! boohoo!!! I cannot stand how American men want women to be anyway... so.. if i happen to find a guy who is cool and he thinks i'm cool.. then we cud exchange pics i suppose.. but like i say. i don't see too many men in driving distance who really float on boat on these websites! I just don't! Sorry....and how many men do you know are going to travel hundreds upon hundreds of miles to come see a woman he's met online? Maybe some.. but if there were scabs of hunky men on here fitting what I'm looking for I'd do so... So far, I've not really seen many guys in my area/or within what i'm looking for a in mate to make it worth even paying for the site! We don't make much money at all in this area and i cannot afford to throw on money on websites when i need it pay bills, it's just that simple. Okay. it's late and i'm wicked tired... worked 13 hours.. probably won't get paid.. and i've missed sleep cuz of all these problems. Just what do you mean by this smalltown: "Quoting LeEnchantress: hehehe eimee.. exactly.. or you are so worn out from waiting.. you are too tired to do anything with anyone anymore!! I hate waiting.. life is short.. just drag them off to bed.. and then before you leave in the morning..while they are still sleeping... leave a little note that says, "I like you!" LOL.. that way if they don't feel the same you won't be there to see it! LOL Thats certainly an original approach that is for sure! lol ....How has that been working for yah?" Are you trying to be sarcastic or rude.. or funny??  i was just trying to be light-hearted... if you are gonna make fun of me, i won't post stuff here no mo'
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11/20/2006 12:55 pm |
What's to lose. I would tell them, Hey, I like you and want to know you better. If they aren't interested, well, there's a whole bunch of fish left out there in the sea. We can't expect everyone to like us back. Just keep trying is my motto. Someday, I will find someone who likes me for the person I am. Ok, maybe my next life, but it will happen.
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11/20/2006 3:42 pm |
well.. thank you slowtony.. i am glad to see someone supporting my side.. i think that's what you are doing. Yeah.. that's WHY i don't post my pic out there.. There are CREEPS out there who stalk women. Shoot I met this guy... in person.. and before i knew he had googled me and knew more things about me I had cared to give out to him.. Then i had computer probs one day and he insisted that i give him my IP ADDRESS!!!! hahahahah.. sure pal...... not! Okay folks, i'm not that savvy computer-wise, but i do know that giving out an IP address to give out your home address. And did I mention I found him rather creepy after awhile. He was into some S/M crap.. okay.. all your s/m can throw tomatoes at me here.. but it's NOT my cup of tea... He was just not the type of guy i wanted to have my home address.. let's leave it at that And like i say.. if i see a guy i like I tell him. I think i've told riny he's cute.. but shoot he lives in Amersterdamn.... how is that gonna work? But i do see your point Tony. I see how guy could be afraid to speak out cuz then they are thought of are aggressive, cloutish.. whatever you want to call them. So maybe that's why they hang back. I think, though, growing up when men did take charge.. it's SOOOOO aggravating now to have a guy be so passive about persuing us women. And it's not really in our nature to be the aggressor.. at least society has taught us that is a huge NO-NO..... Anywya.. Tony. it's a brave new world today.. even if you do find one who floats your boat... and you go to bed..there's no guarantee he will ever call you again!! It's pretty sad just how low men have come as a nation when it comes to treating the fairer \bsexo?\b. Even Smalltown guy wrote a blog about that one!! So.. so much for romance... it's a flipping jungle out there. She says as she applies the ointment to my assorted cuts and scratches from entering the jungle of love!
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11/21/2006 1:11 am |
well you've seen the same suggestive comments from some quarters on your bloggs fella...so im not going to say anything if i were to know or not the first step to figuring a woman out is not to try and figure her out...think about that...if a woman likes you mate,i mean really likes you,she'll find a way of telling you...be sure of that... did the rubic cube when i was in the second grade....funny thing is,could never figure it out as an adult ,most peculiar...
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11/21/2006 1:13 am |
Ermmmm...maybe you shouldnt have said that ever heard that song by Queen "Dont stop me now"
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11/21/2006 1:18 am |
turns up with his trusted universal lock key ,peers through window and lip reads before trying . Damm Dani's got a special lock made this time.... holds hands up in resignation....she got me this time... walks away whistling strangers in the night soulfully
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11/21/2006 1:20 am |
EH?,She's on your blogg fella....
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11/22/2006 8:13 pm |
I truly believe in destiny. Our lives have already been mapped out. We here to take the ride. Depends. I'm completely transparent so one look into my eyes and they would already know.
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11/25/2006 3:47 pm |
This post is going on forever.. Moonstone.. you made this comment, "What's to lose. I would tell them, Hey, I like you and want to know you better. If they aren't interested, well, there's a whole bunch of fish left out there in the sea. We can't expect everyone to like us back. Just keep trying is my motto. Someday, I will find someone who likes me for the person I am. Ok, maybe my next life, but it will happen. " Well, that IS the basic problem in my area!! There are so few attractive decent guys in my area that are friendly enough to even smile at you, let alone talk to you.. finding a cute guy, who's nice to you.. who likes you seems like Mission Impossible here in the area where I live!  Obviously, though this guy is very attractive on the outside. . . but i am starting to feel he's not that pretty on the inside, he's rather unfriendly & thoughtless, at least where I am concerned... and really that what counts most to me. I mean. I'm not a machocist! I don't care how nice he is to his co-workers, his kids or his siblings.. If he's going to dismiss me like I didn't exist in the first place...i'm not going to be placing him on any pedestals. Yeah.. and you know smalltown? I DON'T like someone, not even a cute guy, wanting to like dissect my brain and know EVERY personal detail about me on a first date!  It's none of his business at that point! If he cannot be bothered to return a simple phone call from me when he's asked ME to call him.. then why am I expected to answer all his probing personal questions?? That seems crazy to me. I don't think it's cuz he likes me that he's asking me all of these question, truly. He's just trying to see if I meet his little "laundry list" of someone acceptable enuf to be in his little circle of friends... I mean. I'm NOT a bad, uneducated, street-person. I don't live in a trailer park (not that anyone who lives in a trailer is a bad or inferior person), I have a job (maybe I don't make scads of money.. but i didn't think guys required you to have a high income to be dateable!!) I've never been in jail. i don't have 3 kids by 3 different fathers. I don't know why he's seems to be always losing down his nose at me. I'm a pretty mellow, kind-hearted nice person. Maybe he's looking for some 20 something year old with a 6 figure income.. who knows? I've not heard from him in quite awhile...I've renamed his number as Thoughtless Idiot on my phone directory. LOL At least if he ever calls again.. i remember how rude he's been! And you are right.. I see alot of guys looking at me... I'm not sit around waiting for the guy to call anymore. I am completely fedup with his nonsense!
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11/26/2006 2:15 am |
Clarry...where's your manners?,you havent even offered Les enchantress a cup of tea yet...wouldnt mind one either
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