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Sweetnsassygurl
7/19/2008 9:29 pm |
We all get angry from time to time, it's part of life. There are always those who piss us off. Also part of life. Now for the questions.... How do you fight/argue? Are you the aggressive person who will argue until the other person agrees with you? Do you fight dirty? Sling names and hurtful things to get the other person madder? These people fight to win. Do you fight fair, only expressing how you feel and stick to the facts? Some dredge up the past, so when there is an issue they bring up ALL past issues and drag it out to an all out war. Over the past few years I have learned what works for me best is to only fight/argue over things that truly mean something to me. Number one is my kids. They aren't to be messed with. There is so much negativity in the world today that we don't need to add to it. Fighting and arguing saps energy, leaving a person feel drained and unhappy. Your opinions on fighting/arguing as well as ways to solve arguements would greatly be appreciated. Thank you and enjoy the rest of the weekend! 
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 7/19/2008 10:11 pm |
Just keep giving them smooches till they give up! If it weren't for smart alec remarks, I'd have no remarks at all.
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7/19/2008 10:12 pm |
I'm the sort who goes very, very quiet when I'm angry, simply because I know how capable I am of saying hurtful things, considering my facility with language. So I have to be alone, simmer and rage undisturbed, else I'd lash out and do serious emotional and psychological damage. Then when I've managed to calm my demons, I can approach the situation more objectively. I'm dyslexic. I scream Ho Dog instead of Oh God in the throes of passion.
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7/19/2008 10:42 pm |
Despite my ability to font well, I can not fight well with speech, words fail me and I simply shut down. It drives my husband nuts. Only recently in the last few years have I started responding, allowing myself to feel anger and to reply back, nay, to speak my fears, and my anger. I try never to sling hatred, because once something terrible is said, it can never be taken back. Sensy between the stars, beyond the planet mars, there Sens will be
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7/19/2008 11:34 pm |
i hate arguments.. and never want to argue nor fight with anyone for the fear of saying things that i might regret after.. im always calm in putting my words across. but then i easily cried as well.. so, i dont want to argue if i can.. but i will let you know my point as calm as i could.. nice post.. thanks for sharing.. JuSt An OrDiNaRy GiRl WiTh XtRa OrDiNaRy DrEaMs! 
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7/19/2008 11:37 pm |
Have a great Sunday funny this so relates at present thanks for reading and as per Dave Allen "May your God go with you"
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 7/20/2008 2:37 am |
Just keep giving them smooches till they give up!  not tried this yet...will try it soon cheers Insist on yourself. Never imitate.
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7/20/2008 2:39 am |
I'm the sort who goes very, very quiet when I'm angry, simply because I know how capable I am of saying hurtful things, considering my facility with language. So I have to be alone, simmer and rage undisturbed, else I'd lash out and do serious emotional and psychological damage. Then when I've managed to calm my demons, I can approach the situation more objectively. I am similar ........ when i am angry, i am quiet.... they will notice a change... but Ana...second part..I gather my mighty strength and off i go... you are much better Ana at controlling the situation ...oh my! Insist on yourself. Never imitate.
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7/20/2008 4:20 am |
I try to use logic and reasoning and understanding. If, in the end, I just cannot agree, then I agree to disagree. If it persists, then I need to walk away from the person and the argument. I am stubborn that way, but not thick headed. At least I don't think I am I have always found myself in the position of being the mediator. Usually between two or more family members. I would be the one to find common ground and mediate/arbitrate disagreements. Not that I relished the role, but I was thrusted in that position many a time. It took me years to figure out that I was enabling those around me and being used by them, because they knew they could argue away and good Ole Bill would come to the rescue and settle it for them. I stopped doing that about 5 years ago, for the most part. Sometimes I still catch myself falling back into old habits, especially with Chris and Sarah. Trying to mediate their little squabbles. When I can catch myself I step back and say,"Have at it". Forcing them to mediate for them selves. It works, for the most part, because they come to an understanding that they themselves make and not having it made for them.Standplatz und liefert
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7/20/2008 4:49 am |
its so easy to stop all this fighting, stay single!
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7/20/2008 6:30 am |
I am always looking for ways to discuss important stuff with my loved ones, especially kids and partner without escalating to argument. Sometimes you go overboard or go crazy ...does that make you a bad person, nah, you just work on it so it don't nasty. No one likes arguing especially if it is a meaningless argument. You can shutup and not talk about any problem that arises then what, how are you going to understand anything if it is not dealt with. I think its a cop out...there are issues that needs to address but we have to find a better way to do it without getting into an argument. Sometimes I find myself in a silly argument on the mags,...lol I am blunt with my comments. I see the situation as I see it but when I think about it, I remind myself my place... There are ways to get ya point across to WHOEVER, you just figure out what that is.
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7/20/2008 7:33 am |
Depends what the argument is about. I rarely use emotionalism--i.e. name calling, dredging up past offences or that type of thing. If it is an issue I really care about, I am immoveable--as people have discovered. I am very flexible until someone crosses a principle, then I am not flexible--kind of scary for some people to deal with evidently. Wishing you happiness Misty
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7/20/2008 12:12 pm |
I'm the sort who goes very, very quiet when I'm angry, simply because I know how capable I am of saying hurtful things, considering my facility with language. So I have to be alone, simmer and rage undisturbed, else I'd lash out and do serious emotional and psychological damage. Then when I've managed to calm my demons, I can approach the situation more objectively. I tend to also be very cautious about saying...you did this and it made me mad....and lean towards...when you did this...I felt. In lots of ways it takes the pressure off and puts the responsibility for what I felt right where it belongs....on me. Feel the passion, walk in peace, live in love....Ari 
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7/20/2008 4:20 pm |
I get quiet as well.....I know that when I am really angry it's easy to lash out and say something hurtful.....I'd rather wait and discuss the issue when I am more calm.
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7/20/2008 5:27 pm |
Sadly, I can fight in every single one of those ways you described, but it just determines on the person and situation. I can never be the same kind of arguer (is that a word?) with different kinds of arguments and fights. Much Love,CaptainPrincess 
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7/20/2008 10:15 pm |
I usually just argue with the hubby and its over dumb stuff. But we usually push each other buttons on purpose and we know just how. Say things under our breath...we can be downright nasty to each other. Cindy AKA "RushPrincess"
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