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From my last blog, I learned a bit about a few bloggers. They are also single parents. I had a conversation a while back with a single dad of three. He felt 'you women' as he put it have it easier then single dads. He felt their were more resources for single moms than there were for single dads. Well I got my gun out and am gonna shoot some holes in that theory. The resources out there for single parents apply to singles dads just as much as for single moms (at least where I come from). The resources are for single PARENTS, there is no gender specified. Having been a single mom for almost 7 years now I don't feel it is any easier to be a single mom or single dad. Raising children by yourself can be challenging. The rewards are far greater though! Thoughts on this?? |
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7/12/2008 11:29 am |
Some people (male or female ) are bringing up Children alone, it is not easy But.... I personally think it must be more difficult for a man to do. I guess I have my beliefs on thatTreat me with respect and I'll treat you the same 
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7/12/2008 12:26 pm |
 straight from the heart 
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 7/12/2008 12:56 pm |
Being a single parent, whether male or female, is tough. I was raised, (using the term raised loosely) by a single mom. She had a rough go , and I know she did the best with what she had, which back then was nothing. Regardless of single parent or having both parents....I am a believer in that it takes a community to raise a child. Supporting one another is fundamental in empowering our children to take on the future with a strong sense of who they are. The biggest problem single parents face is the fact that they are scrutinized by those who have all that they need to be highly functional parents .....and then judged for every little mistake they make. This subject is a hotbed for all sorts of discussion!...Good post Cin. Michelle 
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7/12/2008 2:13 pm |
Some people (male or female ) are bringing up Children alone, it is not easy But.... I personally think it must be more difficult for a man to do. I guess I have my beliefs on that
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7/12/2008 2:13 pm |
Hiya!
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7/12/2008 2:45 pm |
well being single parent dad, you find other parents help you, sometimes more as they assume a male cannot cope. However the state here in UK is severly biased against males even though we live in an equal society. thanks for reading and as per Dave Allen "May your God go with you"
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7/12/2008 3:15 pm |
Being a single parent, whether male or female, is tough. I was raised, (using the term raised loosely) by a single mom. She had a rough go , and I know she did the best with what she had, which back then was nothing. Regardless of single parent or having both parents....I am a believer in that it takes a community to raise a child. Supporting one another is fundamental in empowering our children to take on the future with a strong sense of who they are. The biggest problem single parents face is the fact that they are scrutinized by those who have all that they need to be highly functional parents .....and then judged for every little mistake they make. This subject is a hotbed for all sorts of discussion!...Good post Cin. There are those that stereotype single parents. Sometimes it is in the best interest and much better for the children when the parents aren't together. I remember quite some time back having a conversation with someone online who assumed since I was a single mom that I was lying about re-educating myself (I was in college at that time). He assumed from the fact I am a single mom and from the area I reside in I was a 'typical crack w*ore who hangs out at the bar every night sleeping with various guys'. Umm that conversation lasted all of 5 minutes before the BLOCK button was hit.
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7/12/2008 3:48 pm |
I have seen these two men in my village for quite some time, always alone with their babies..At first I thought they were single Dads until I got to know them and was told the wife's are at work..They seems to me, to have tackle the raising of these kids quite well,yes through they are not single,but I have never seen the Mom's,pushing the kids prams nor at the playing fields,nor shopping..I think once a man has made up his mind to raise his kids being single or not, the duty should not become woman has it easier.Being a single parent is never easy.I am afraid to voice it out loud and say that woman may handle certain situation better then men,but when talking to these two at times, I hear their stories just the same like I have heard from others Moms..As a matter of fact single men tend to get better treatments in getting help with their babies as we women would..We tend to rush and offer help,whereas we woman get the look oh she can do it she is a woman..nor?. No limitations of resources, keeps a good single Dad from raising his kids.. Thanks for sharing...  It is the truth in man that sets him free..
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7/12/2008 4:49 pm |
I agree its not easy to be single mom or dad (¯`v´¯) `*.¸.*´ ¸.•´¸.•*¨) ¸.•*¨) (¸.•´ (¸.•´ .•´ ¸¸.•¨¯`•smile and be happy always
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7/12/2008 7:11 pm |
I don't know what State you're in, but in IL where I live, the resources are for single parents...period. I live by Chicago that has a horrifying number of single mothers, many with a different daddy for every baby, and almost always non-existent fathers. So I suppose looking at statistics in a place like that you'd think there are more resources for single moms, but there are just more of them. I really don't know how you could base resources on the gender of the single parent. It's surprising to me that someone is experiencing this. I'd think that's discrimination and borders criminal. The only resource a single mom may have that the single dad doesn't is friends to talk to and commiserate with. Men aren't as much into conversations on this kind of thing, so I can see where "us women" have it easier on that front.
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7/12/2008 11:11 pm |
i think everybody knows what he or she is looking for in life.
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7/13/2008 3:41 am |
Men do have to deal with the stereotype of the "dead beat" dad. Men who are single parents are challenging the tradional gender roles--and in that there is always difficulty. We frequently hear about "dead beat dads" in my province--there are laws to garnishee their wages/salary if they renege on child support payments. But rarely, do we hear about those fathers successfully raising their children--by themselves. For those fathers/mothers raising their children by yourselves, hats off to you. Wishing you happiness Misty
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7/13/2008 9:38 am |
I am not a single parent so I can't say how it is, but I give you single parents out there a lot credit! You rock!  Cindy AKA "RushPrincess"
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7/13/2008 10:15 am |
well being single parent dad, you find other parents help you, sometimes more as they assume a male cannot cope. However the state here in UK is severly biased against males even though we live in an equal society.  Hopefully that will change.
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7/13/2008 10:20 am |
I have seen these two men in my village for quite some time, always alone with their babies..At first I thought they were single Dads until I got to know them and was told the wife's are at work..They seems to me, to have tackle the raising of these kids quite well,yes through they are not single,but I have never seen the Mom's,pushing the kids prams nor at the playing fields,nor shopping..I think once a man has made up his mind to raise his kids being single or not, the duty should not become woman has it easier.Being a single parent is never easy.I am afraid to voice it out loud and say that woman may handle certain situation better then men,but when talking to these two at times, I hear their stories just the same like I have heard from others Moms..As a matter of fact single men tend to get better treatments in getting help with their babies as we women would..We tend to rush and offer help,whereas we woman get the look oh she can do it she is a woman..nor?. No limitations of resources, keeps a good single Dad from raising his kids.. Thanks for sharing... Single dads should be recognized just a much as single moms. Their job or raising children is just as challenging.
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7/13/2008 10:21 am |
I agree its not easy to be single mom or dad
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7/13/2008 10:25 am |
I don't know what State you're in, but in IL where I live, the resources are for single parents...period. I live by Chicago that has a horrifying number of single mothers, many with a different daddy for every baby, and almost always non-existent fathers. So I suppose looking at statistics in a place like that you'd think there are more resources for single moms, but there are just more of them. I really don't know how you could base resources on the gender of the single parent. It's surprising to me that someone is experiencing this. I'd think that's discrimination and borders criminal. The only resource a single mom may have that the single dad doesn't is friends to talk to and commiserate with. Men aren't as much into conversations on this kind of thing, so I can see where "us women" have it easier on that front. As I mentioned above, here it is based on income for the resources. It isn`t based on gender, the resources are for single PARENTS. If people need help they have to be willing to ask for it.
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7/13/2008 10:25 am |
i think everybody knows what he or she is looking for in life.
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7/13/2008 10:31 am |
Men do have to deal with the stereotype of the "dead beat" dad. Men who are single parents are challenging the tradional gender roles--and in that there is always difficulty. We frequently hear about "dead beat dads" in my province--there are laws to garnishee their wages/salary if they renege on child support payments. But rarely, do we hear about those fathers successfully raising their children--by themselves. For those fathers/mothers raising their children by yourselves, hats off to you.
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7/13/2008 10:32 am |
I am not a single parent so I can't say how it is, but I give you single parents out there a lot credit! You rock! Thank you.
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