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Sweetnsassygurl
7/11/2008 8:20 pm |
Which would you pick.... A easy life where you were looked after financially, shielded from all troubles? OR A life which you had to face challenges, and hardships? I remember a conversation my mom and I had a few years ago. She raised my brother and I herself with no help from my father. She felt bad for all she couldn't provide for us. I replied to her "Mom if we were given everything we wanted, we wouldn't know how to appreciate. If life had been super easy for us we wouldn't know how to cope with challenges which we face in adulthood." Hopefully she sees that in her not 'giving us everything' we learned more about life, the realities about life. By giving us LESS she in fact gave us MORE. Just some thoughts I was pondering.  
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7/11/2008 8:51 pm |
Hmmm...I'm not sure. Some hardships can only be overcome with money, like certain health issues. But on the whole, I think I'd rather have challenges and the knowledge to overcome life's hardships on my own. Then - either way, we really wouldn't know what it was like to have it any other way. So does that negate the experience? Or am I thinking too much here? Peace .. elaine67
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7/11/2008 9:03 pm |
Respect is needed in our everyday lives,therefore,your message is good
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7/11/2008 10:04 pm |
Hello SSG, I guess, everyone aspires for a comfortable life but... please allow me to tell you a story. I had a friend who was a "second family" of his father's. His father was a rich man, but for some reason, my friends family was neglected by their father financially. Although they sued for support, still they get almost nothing compared to that of the "first" family. My friend and his other siblings had no choice but to work if only to support themselves to finish college. In contrast, the other family had everything they want, the children went to exclusive schools, had their on cars, went to parties left and right... Today, twenty five years or so later, My friend is now an engineer working for an oil company, his brother is a surgeon and his sister graduated at the top oh her class and is now a certified public accountant working for a big auditing firm. from where I can see, they are now living a comfortable life. The other family? well the last i heard, they still have substancial money left for a not so comfortable existence. only one of four children finished college, three had drugsubstance abuse related problems, the eldest was charged and convicted of homicide as a result of drunk driving. Although he never saw the inside of a jail, a large chunk of their money was used to ensure his liberty. thanks for the space have a nice weekend take care i'll scratch your back...thats it.
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 7/11/2008 10:06 pm |
Hi Sassy I am a single parent with 2 kids and I fully understand Looking back I trust I did a marvellous job!  Now back to your question, can I pick/opt both?  Who knows what miracles YOU can achieve, when YOU BELIEVE, somehow YOU WILL ..... YOU WILL WHEN YOU BELIEVE
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7/11/2008 10:42 pm |
If another man succeeds by one effort,you will use a hundred efforts....
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7/12/2008 12:15 am |
i too am a single mom with two kids.... and am thankful that though we may not have everything we want, we are blessed with anything we need..and during these hard times, that already is a great blessing. about the choices....can i also a good balance of both the good and the bad side of life? have a great day....take care...
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7/12/2008 12:40 am |
Been through all the challenges and stronger as a result would opt for other now. Good post Have a good weekend.Treat me with respect and I'll treat you the same
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7/12/2008 1:13 am |
nice to meet u ,too
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 7/12/2008 1:19 am |
 (¯`v´¯) `*.¸.*´ ¸.•´¸.•*¨) ¸.•*¨) (¸.•´ (¸.•´ .•´ ¸¸.•¨¯`•smile and be happy always
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7/12/2008 2:48 am |
bit of both really have a great weekend thanks for reading and as per Dave Allen "May your God go with you"
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7/12/2008 9:21 am |
Hmmm...I'm not sure. Some hardships can only be overcome with money, like certain health issues. But on the whole, I think I'd rather have challenges and the knowledge to overcome life's hardships on my own. Then - either way, we really wouldn't know what it was like to have it any other way. So does that negate the experience? Or am I thinking too much here? Hardships and challenges do certainly give us strength. Sometime it can feel overwhelming though.
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7/12/2008 9:22 am |
Respect is needed in our everyday lives,therefore,your message is good
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7/12/2008 9:25 am |
Hello SSG, I guess, everyone aspires for a comfortable life but... please allow me to tell you a story. I had a friend who was a "second family" of his father's. His father was a rich man, but for some reason, my friends family was neglected by their father financially. Although they sued for support, still they get almost nothing compared to that of the "first" family. My friend and his other siblings had no choice but to work if only to support themselves to finish college. In contrast, the other family had everything they want, the children went to exclusive schools, had their on cars, went to parties left and right... Today, twenty five years or so later, My friend is now an engineer working for an oil company, his brother is a surgeon and his sister graduated at the top oh her class and is now a certified public accountant working for a big auditing firm. from where I can see, they are now living a comfortable life. The other family? well the last i heard, they still have substancial money left for a not so comfortable existence. only one of four children finished college, three had drugsubstance abuse related problems, the eldest was charged and convicted of homicide as a result of drunk driving. Although he never saw the inside of a jail, a large chunk of their money was used to ensure his liberty. thanks for the space have a nice weekend take care When people live a easy life they don't know how to cope with alot when being forced to face challenges on their own.
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7/12/2008 9:26 am |
Hi Sassy I am a single parent with 2 kids and I fully understand Looking back I trust I did a marvellous job! Now back to your question, can I pick/opt both? A nice balance of both would be nice, yes!
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7/12/2008 9:27 am |
If another man succeeds by one effort,you will use a hundred efforts....
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7/12/2008 9:30 am |
i too am a single mom with two kids.... and am thankful that though we may not have everything we want, we are blessed with anything we need..and during these hard times, that already is a great blessing. about the choices....can i also a good balance of both the good and the bad side of life? have a great day....take care... I hope you do get a balance of both as you wish!
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7/12/2008 9:31 am |
Been through all the challenges and stronger as a result would opt for other now. Good post Have a good weekend.
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7/12/2008 9:32 am |
nice to meet u ,too thank you for coming by.
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7/12/2008 9:33 am |
for you too Belle.
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7/12/2008 9:34 am |
bit of both really have a great weekend  Alec I agree.
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7/12/2008 1:02 pm |
hmmm, I think I would not change my life from where it is now. I have lived as it was supposed to be lived, bar the few mistakes, but everyone makes those right? Money doesn't buy happiness, and I am learning, you spend what you have, so if you have more, you spend more... I wish I was a more thrifty soul though  Sensy between the stars, beyond the planet mars, there Sens will be
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7/12/2008 3:15 pm |
This one is easy for me to answer.... I ran away from home when I was 16, I was homeless for a while and slept in the common area of the college dorm in the area I was in...until the dorm mother caught me There were many days I didn't know where my next meal was coming from It took years of hardwork - sometimes working 3 jobs while raising two beautiful kids I finally graduated college at 28 Now, I run the finance department for a major corporation God has blessed me mightly, but I think he knew I had to do it the hard way in order to really appreciate it
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7/12/2008 3:20 pm |
hmmm, I think I would not change my life from where it is now. I have lived as it was supposed to be lived, bar the few mistakes, but everyone makes those right? Money doesn't buy happiness, and I am learning, you spend what you have, so if you have more, you spend more... I wish I was a more thrifty soul though Sensy Money most certainly doesn't buy happiness. The more you make the more you spend. Agree with that as well. My ex used to long haul thinking there was more Money in it, sure there was. He wasn't taking into account he had to spend more Money on the road. Also the exchange rates weren't great once he was across the boarder at that time. He only understood how much more he was spending after we separated. Live and learn!
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7/13/2008 10:13 am |
This one is easy for me to answer.... I ran away from home when I was 16, I was homeless for a while and slept in the common area of the college dorm in the area I was in...until the dorm mother caught me There were many days I didn't know where my next meal was coming from It took years of hardwork - sometimes working 3 jobs while raising two beautiful kids I finally graduated college at 28 Now, I run the finance department for a major corporation God has blessed me mightly, but I think he knew I had to do it the hard way in order to really appreciate it Yes hardship does give people a better sense of appreciation.
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