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Sweetnsassygurl
6/8/2008 10:03 pm |
Hi. Hope your weekend went well. It seemed to speed by and be over in a blink of an eye. Either time is truly flying or I am getting old quick!  When you have an adult child still living at home when is the right time to make them take responsibility for themselves? This parenting thing has been consuming my mind alot lately. Would appreciate some opinions and advice on this. If you care to share how you or someone you know handled things once your/their children became adults it would help greatly. Thank you in advance.   
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6/8/2008 11:16 pm |
*stands up* Hi, my name is CaptainPrincess and I'm an adult child still living at home.  But there's more to it than meets the eye. Much Love,CaptainPrincess 
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6/9/2008 5:28 am |
I had the same problem before with my eldest son. There was a time I was asking him to move out of the house so he can live on his own and fend for himself, but he never budge. He was enjoying his life and let me alone do the worrying for him. The more I prod him, the more that he does not care on what I say to him. Then one day,he surprised me saying he wants to have his own apartment, and he lives and doing well on his own ever since. This happened when he is already about 25 years old. I was thinking my son wanted the way I want him to be in the first place, the thing is he doesn't want to be told what or when to do things, and doesn't want others deciding for him.
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6/9/2008 8:29 am |
Well, mine isn't an adult yet, but the hardest event thus far was finding out that my daughter has started her...well...you know. She told me,... and I screamed very loudly "OH MY GOD NOOOOO!", Ran into my room and cried under the covers for about a half an hour. It was the most horrible feeling. She helped me through it.
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6/9/2008 8:38 am |
I tend to agree with PinkpurpleRose on having their own decision but I would also hasten to say the age does matter. In her case the son still had some room to decide. If your son is 30 and over I think it is good to seek advice as you are doing, which I would have offered but I'm clueless. Still I wish you all the best
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 6/10/2008 11:53 am |
I have no kids, but I thought the way was to get them feeling responsible by themselves day by day and not only when they get adult
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 6/10/2008 10:15 pm |
hi have a great day Alec yes time gets fastr as we get older responsibility is a risk that we all must take,a child will try and so must we if they fail then time may not be right if they succeed then what boundry do we let them try next thanks for reading and as per Dave Allen "May your God go with you"
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6/12/2008 3:43 pm |
Perhaps you might encourage your child to buy a lottery ticket once in a while? A HALF CENTURY of history. 50th BIRTHDAY on NOVEMBER 24!!
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6/15/2008 7:46 pm |
*stands up* Hi, my name is CaptainPrincess and I'm an adult child still living at home. But there's more to it than meets the eye.
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6/15/2008 7:49 pm |
I had the same problem before with my eldest son. There was a time I was asking him to move out of the house so he can live on his own and fend for himself, but he never budge. He was enjoying his life and let me alone do the worrying for him. The more I prod him, the more that he does not care on what I say to him. Then one day,he surprised me saying he wants to have his own apartment, and he lives and doing well on his own ever since. This happened when he is already about 25 years old. I was thinking my son wanted the way I want him to be in the first place, the thing is he doesn't want to be told what or when to do things, and doesn't want others deciding for him.
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6/15/2008 7:51 pm |
Well, mine isn't an adult yet, but the hardest event thus far was finding out that my daughter has started her...well...you know. She told me,... and I screamed very loudly "OH MY GOD NOOOOO!", Ran into my room and cried under the covers for about a half an hour. It was the most horrible feeling. She helped me through it.  There was no joking about it. lol
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6/15/2008 7:52 pm |
I tend to agree with PinkpurpleRose on having their own decision but I would also hasten to say the age does matter. In her case the son still had some room to decide. If your son is 30 and over I think it is good to seek advice as you are doing, which I would have offered but I'm clueless. Still I wish you all the best
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6/15/2008 7:53 pm |
I have no kids, but I thought the way was to get them feeling responsible by themselves day by day and not only when they get adult
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6/15/2008 7:55 pm |
hi have a great day Alec yes time gets fastr as we get older responsibility is a risk that we all must take,a child will try and so must we if they fail then time may not be right if they succeed then what boundry do we let them try next
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6/15/2008 7:55 pm |
Perhaps you might encourage your child to buy a lottery ticket once in a while?
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6/17/2008 8:54 am |
I haven't tried to TELL my daughter what to do, I have tried to explain the situation from a realistic point. I feel she has her priorities not where they should be and that she is taking advantage of living at home. There are circumstances involved that she will have to learn to fend for herself more even though she doesn't want to. i should have NEVER moved out of moms!!!!  But at the old age of 13 i was told "get a job, learn responsibility, blah blah blah" so off i went! a full time job from 13 until i was forced into the medical disability retirement 9yrs ago. Girlfriend this is where YOU hold the cards to the game. Lots of things i DONT WANNA DO in life...but i DO THEM. having a job, going to college full time WERE my mothers requirements to LIVE AT HOME as an adult. No JOB...no COLLEGE....no domicile. It was that simple. with the boys autism he may well live with me the rest of my natural life but thats ok too. That cannot be helped unless a cure for the autism is found. Time to crack that whip and become the BIG BAAAD MAMA!!! Life is short....play HARD!!!
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6/18/2008 9:42 pm |
why SURE she is taking advantage of this situation. Come to think of it.... i should have NEVER moved out of moms!!!! But at the old age of 13 i was told "get a job, learn responsibility, blah blah blah" so off i went! a full time job from 13 until i was forced into the medical disability retirement 9yrs ago. Girlfriend this is where YOU hold the cards to the game. Lots of things i DONT WANNA DO in life...but i DO THEM. having a job, going to college full time WERE my mothers requirements to LIVE AT HOME as an adult. No JOB...no COLLEGE....no domicile. It was that simple. with the boys autism he may well live with me the rest of my natural life but thats ok too. That cannot be helped unless a cure for the autism is found. Time to crack that whip and become the BIG BAAAD MAMA!!! I am being the BIG BAAAD MAMA and she keeps trying to get me to the DR so he can prescibe some meds to make me 'chill the feck out!'
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