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Have you ever had a situation in which you talked with someone for a while, meet and didn't feel a connection. Then stopped talking with that person, and one day, that person calls you and ask you if you want to be just friends? Should you be just friends? Should you give them that because you know they have feelings for you? Or should you be firm and tell them it's not a good idea?  Tell me your opinion! "Never look back, the future is so close!" Angie |
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9/19/2008 8:29 am |
Tell them it's not a good idea, if there is no connection from one person who knows the other person has feelings it's called 'leading them on' And life is to short for mind games. Have a good weekend. It's all about nothing anyway
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9/19/2008 9:48 am |
Friendship develops, it's not something you decide beforehand. The fact that you stopped talking should give you a clue.
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 9/19/2008 9:51 am |
Tell them it's not a good idea, if there is no connection from one person who knows the other person has feelings it's called 'leading them on' And life is to short for mind games. Have a good weekend.  "Never look back, the future is so close!" Angie
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9/19/2008 9:54 am |
Friendship develops, it's not something you decide beforehand. The fact that you stopped talking should give you a clue. I think I will not, because I know he likes me to much to be just friends and will just make me feel bad and give him false hope. Thanks my friend!  "Never look back, the future is so close!" Angie
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9/19/2008 11:10 am |
And here on the "Jerry Springer Show" we have...... I'm sure at the end of the day you will do what you feel is the right thing to do..  Tone. 
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9/19/2008 12:12 pm |
And here on the "Jerry Springer Show" we have...... I'm sure at the end of the day you will do what you feel is the right thing to do.. Tone. How are you Tone? "Never look back, the future is so close!" Angie
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9/19/2008 1:55 pm |
It never works when one person wants more than the other from a friendship.....I vote  Hugs Flo Every survival kit should include sense of humor 
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9/20/2008 12:41 am |
i'm brainless this time angie (¯`v´¯) `*.¸.*´ ¸.•´¸.•*¨) ¸.•*¨) (¸.•´ (¸.•´ .•´ ¸¸.•¨¯`•smile and be happy always 
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9/20/2008 1:18 am |
Just to give you a clue on how SOME people are...(me, for example) I have attempted a relationship beyond friendship with two others here at FriendFinder. It didn't work out, yet we remain friends. I USED to have feelings for them beyond friendship, yes, yet I no longer have those feelings. We are adults and respect each other, so we know that any further attempts at romance between us will, most probably, not happen. We keep in contact and remain friends. We have made up in our minds that romance is no longer between us, so we moved on. Adults can do that, yet not always does it happen. It is a careful process. Respect is the key. My answer to your query is to remain friends, until they try again, (begin hinting at the possibility between the two of you.) If they try again, then call off the friendship as well. True friends respect each other and each other's wishes. As I said, "respect" is the key. Sometimes fear can ruin a perfectly good friendship between adults. You do as you wish, as you feel is right for you. Just think about it for a while. If you believe that it will cause you problems later, then end the friendship as well. If you think that those past feelings might return from either end, then don't keep them as a friend either. It's not worth keeping someone as a friend if there may be problems down the road. God Bless You Angie! I trust you will resolve this issue gracefully!  .......Tom
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9/20/2008 8:47 am |
Angie, I sense you left something out.. I think he wants to be a friend with benefits.. not a bad thing.. but also not for everybody either. As a guy I think this FWB is easier because society does not judge me harshly but for women.. those around them judge them harshly and try to make them feel guilty.. I know.. been there done that.. got the t-shirt  I think you may be a woman of class and sophistication and care what others think about you... so a kiss on the first date is not easy for you either.. and you have a right to stay in your comfort zone.. I do not care to be pushed either.. if a relationship is not comfortable for me.. I will end it... like you have done already.. but there are usually regrets until they just become another memory. Follow you gut instincts.. they are right 99.9 % of the time. your friend in Texas who is struggling with this web dating also. "Life is a Journey, not a destination" "So Enjoy the Ride"
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 9/20/2008 1:00 pm |
well, I would give it a go. I like to believe things can work in one way or other. You are always free to go away.
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9/20/2008 2:38 pm |
tell them to drop dead  have a great weekend Alec thanks for reading and as per Dave Allen "May your God go with you"
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9/20/2008 2:46 pm |
Angie, I sense you left something out.. I think he wants to be a friend with benefits.. not a bad thing.. but also not for everybody either. As a guy I think this FWB is easier because society does not judge me harshly but for women.. those around them judge them harshly and try to make them feel guilty.. I know.. been there done that.. got the t-shirt I think you may be a woman of class and sophistication and care what others think about you... so a kiss on the first date is not easy for you either.. and you have a right to stay in your comfort zone.. I do not care to be pushed either.. if a relationship is not comfortable for me.. I will end it... like you have done already.. but there are usually regrets until they just become another memory. Follow you gut instincts.. they are right 99.9 0f the time. your friend in Texas who is struggling with this web dating also. Anyway...it's NO...NO...NO. "Never look back, the future is so close!" Angie
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9/20/2008 2:49 pm |
It never works when one person wants more than the other from a friendship.....I vote Hugs Flo  ...NO WAY!"Never look back, the future is so close!" Angie
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9/20/2008 2:51 pm |
Just to give you a clue on how SOME people are...(me, for example) I have attempted a relationship beyond friendship with two others here at FriendFinder. It didn't work out, yet we remain friends. I USED to have feelings for them beyond friendship, yes, yet I no longer have those feelings. We are adults and respect each other, so we know that any further attempts at romance between us will, most probably, not happen. We keep in contact and remain friends. We have made up in our minds that romance is no longer between us, so we moved on. Adults can do that, yet not always does it happen. It is a careful process. Respect is the key. My answer to your query is to remain friends, until they try again, (begin hinting at the possibility between the two of you.) If they try again, then call off the friendship as well. True friends respect each other and each other's wishes. As I said, "respect" is the key. Sometimes fear can ruin a perfectly good friendship between adults. You do as you wish, as you feel is right for you. Just think about it for a while. If you believe that it will cause you problems later, then end the friendship as well. If you think that those past feelings might return from either end, then don't keep them as a friend either. It's not worth keeping someone as a friend if there may be problems down the road. God Bless You Angie! I trust you will resolve this issue gracefully! "Never look back, the future is so close!" Angie
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9/21/2008 12:50 pm |
tell them to drop dead have a great weekend Alec and I am having the best weekend ever... "Never look back, the future is so close!" Angie
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9/21/2008 4:26 pm |
hard to answer this instantly.. my answer is inbetween yes and no if u found that person honest(if u have that abilty to read ppls minds, i believe u have) u can/may respect his/her feelings .. my question why someone wants to be yur friend suddenly after few words? it can be from a second-line thought/intention or can be a pure innocence! however.. in fact a few strange wrods or a litl strange voice or a amazing look is enough, sometimes to draw somebody to someone's heart/soul/mind. U, this is u can weigh all these..  'everything is answerable' _ aronya.infinity44
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9/22/2008 7:15 am |
hard to answer this instantly.. my answer is inbetween yes and no if u found that person honest(if u have that abilty to read ppls minds, i believe u have) u can/may respect his/her feelings .. my question why someone wants to be yur friend suddenly after few words? it can be from a second-line thought/intention or can be a pure innocence! however.. in fact a few strange wrods or a litl strange voice or a amazing look is enough, sometimes to draw somebody to someone's heart/soul/mind. U, this is u can weigh all these.. Thx, huggles! "Never look back, the future is so close!" Angie
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9/22/2008 3:24 pm |
Thx Alec I told them to drop dead and I am having the best weekend ever...glad to hear weekend good thanks for reading and as per Dave Allen "May your God go with you"
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9/24/2008 2:35 am |
yes, if both agrees to be only friends. . and both work at it, why not?
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