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For over two years, I have been trying to tell myself I am the person who can handle anything life throws my way. For the most part that has always been true, at least until today. I hate asking for help because I've always been the strong one. Funny, but life had different plans for me. For some time now I have been trying to learn how to do it all. Maintain all the house maintenance, the yard, the fence repairs, and anything else that needed to be done after my divorce. I tried to do all this by myself because I was too embarassed to say, I need some help. Well, today, after a few stitches, an embarassing visit to the ER, I learned that there are things I will have to learn to ask for help. While it seems foreign to me, I am sure I can't afford to get stitches all the time, and well, it is embarassing to tell the person in triage that the reason you are there is because you were trying to use a weedeater that was too heavy and that it cut your pants and dug into your leg. I guess I didn't realize the hardest lesson learned in surviving a divorce was the one where you have to learn to depend on others for things that were once done by someone else. I have no idea if it is because I thought it would make me look weak to ask for help, or if it was a I can do it all mentality. Either way, it was a costly lesson in more ways than one. I guess today was another way life teaches me, I can't do it all, even if I think it is possible. That there are times where you really do have to ask someone else for help. Wonder which is worse, believing you can do it all yourself for fear of being weak, or if not asking for help and getting to pay a visit to the local medical facility and have a doctor look at you in disbelief? I guess we all learn lessons differently, to bad they include stitches sometimes. Today I learned that I can't do it all and, well sometimes you have to ask for help whether you want to or not. |
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 8/18/2008 6:51 pm |
I agree with all your comments about messages we've been sent and how it affects us. I also agree that sometimes we just have to take a risk and risk getting hurt.
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8/18/2008 9:00 am |
Don't you wonder what cultural messages we've been sent that we feel it is a sign of weakness to ask for help? And yet, I bet, if one of your friends asked you for help, you'd be more than willing--delighted. I donīt do fences I donīt do cars I donīt do fences  great idea send all friends who asked you a favour a postcard with a return favour to your benefit.
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8/18/2008 5:22 am |
 at my young age I got learn a lesson too! life is up and down and hope we are all live positive in this earth and can struggle the problem we had in this planet all I can say cheer up and smile I wish you good luck and your family too!  Express love, romantic and passion with real smile
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8/18/2008 3:25 am |
Don't you wonder what cultural messages we've been sent that we feel it is a sign of weakness to ask for help? And yet, I bet, if one of your friends asked you for help, you'd be more than willing--delighted. Wishing you happiness Misty
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8/18/2008 1:45 am |
Life has many choices, it's either we lived with the consequences or risk and get hurt...And I would have to agree to you that we all learned the lessons of life differently, some may able to survive it on their own some may be needing their support groups.I feel the same thing sometimes especially if I want to fix my problem alone...because in that way I will feel no one else to blame but only "me"....but whatever your heart decides....it's really up to you...smile love lots, NIkKy
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