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THREE DIFFERENT KINDS OF LOVE First to give credit to where credit is due I read this on another site and the author was not named. First kind of love: The "IF kind of love" says, "I will love you IF you do things my way, IF you give me gifts, IF you become a good provider, IF you get a good report card at school." It is a conditional love based upon future expectations. If these conditions are not met, then like a legal contract, love is broken. This is a selfish love because it is solely based upon future expectations. It is love that must be earned. Most marriages fail because they are based upon this conditional love. are often heard saying, "I will be your friend" IF you let me play with your new toy; till then I hate you. Thus the IF kind of love is a fickle unstable love. This is the childish love we are all born with. It is a worldly love of natural instincts. We need to mature out of the IF kind of love! Second kind of love: The "because of" kind of love says, "I will love you BECAUSE you are now young and beautiful, BECAUSE I now desire you, BECAUSE you are now popular, BECAUSE you are now in good health or wealthy, BECAUSE I feel good when I am with you." This kind of love is common among teenagers because it is solely based upon the others current status. The BECAUSE OF kind of love is also doomed to failure in marriage. When someone proclaims, "I have fallen out of love" they have fallen out of the "because of" kind of love, not true love. This kind of love is not in tune with reality when it demands that things stay the same in an ever changing world. Like the If kind of love, it is unstable and fickle. It is full of doubts and fears for what tomorrow might bring. True Love: True love is the "in spite of kind of love". It says, "I love you IN SPITE OF your faults, IN SPITE OF being fat and ugly, IN SPITE OF the times you are selfish and inconsiderate, IN SPITE OF when you sin against me," True love is unconditional. It is the love that God loves us with. It is a love we don't naturally possess but must learn. It is an enduring love that doesn't even keep a score card. It will always be there tomorrow regardless of what we have done today. This is the kind of love that 50th "golden" anniversaries are made of. For me I am looking for the third kind of Love. The love that will accept me with all my little quirks, and inperfections. I would like to think I have reached the point in my life where not only do I want that kind of love but can give it also. So where are you on your love evolution?  just things that run through annie's little mind  |
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i miss the feeling  the most beautiful view is the one I share with you
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8/19/2008 4:07 am |
I agree with this 3 kind of life live life life is beautiful cheer up and smile  Your thought is my thought.. 
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8/19/2008 1:18 pm |
I am for and in the 3rd kind lol I am not perfect and neither is my partner and we know. I wish you happiness and meeting the one that deserves you 
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yes it's not original I state that in the first line. When ever I copy and paste I give credit where credit is due. As I stated there was no Author on the article. thanks for sharing just things that run through annie's little mind
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8/19/2008 4:44 pm |
hi there. I feel true love  be safe, L.A.S.M. "The wisest mind has something yet to learn"
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8/19/2008 4:44 pm |
Interesting Blog! I currently love someone. But I am not "in love" with them - but it is more the True Love than the IF or BECAUSE kinds of love your blog describes. So a bit complex... When I was a teenager I had the BECAUSE kind of love. I fell in love with a young woman Because she fitted my ideal-kind of woman fantasy (inwardly and outwardly). HM
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But then again..you may find that third love, as i did, and wake up one day and realize it is not reciprocated...there are knocks and blows in life....but that is the cruellest one of all. Whatever I do or say....I come in peace.
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8/21/2008 2:36 pm |
But then again..you may find that third love, as i did, and wake up one day and realize it is not reciprocated...there are knocks and blows in life....but that is the cruellest one of all. But type 1 and 2 are just shallow and materalistic, and no more stable long term than the latest fashion. Loads of them about though. Peter
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nice post. thanks for sharing
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9/3/2008 5:17 am |
Hello Bluejeans  thank you very much for the Kudos you give to me. this is my first time I receive it, I was so curious about what is kudos before now I know what is kudos thanks a lot take good care always and your family   Your thought is my thought..
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9/5/2008 1:48 am |
Hi nice blog thanks
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1 post 9/9/2008 12:41 pm |
I have now found true love for the first time in my life, only one problem hes married, i know in most peoples eyes that is bad and no good will become of it! but to feel real true love unconditionally from such a kind caring loving man is amazing, and one hour spent with him is better than a lifetime spent with a man with the wrong kind of love, it was the if and because love i used to have before my divorce after 26 yrs marriage! it is this if love he has now in his marriage, as long as she gets what she wants hes not important to her, so even though it might be strange and wrong in most peoples eyes mine to at one time il be honest, but from a friendship a close true love has developed and i will never have regrets for going down this road because i have never been in love until now, and i know i will love this man for always even if i only have him an hour a week and he will love me the same way, its a love of each other whole heartedly not the clothes we wear the things we got the security we need from each other all we have is us as we are natural, and sitting on a mountain sharing an apple is all we need and watch the rainbows appear in the sky, we look at one another and can feel the love in a touch and just a look we know we have it, and that is a beautiful thing true love, and i will always appreciate and cherish what i have for as long as im allowed to have it, hopefully for always but if not ive had the greatest gift i can ever have, the true love of a man, and i give to him the same gift, awesome and beautiful true love that does exist but not always in the way that is acceptable to all even in 2008 but special all the same,yes its painful when apart its not ideal but the feeling you get from real love is selfless and therfore the other person is the most important one and that is why we can accept the downside because one moment together again and the world seems perfect because in our hearts we are as one even if moralisticly and legaly we are not in some peoples eyes, true love conquers all folks and brings a magical joy into your heart, until you meet and touch and kiss once again, i have found my soulmate, and im not sad cos of what i cant have but im happy cos of what i do have
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