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6/14/2008 10:12 pmLast Read: |
Someone asked me yesterday at the seminar what the key to all success was. I think they didn't actually expect an answer, but I immediately fired the answer back to their astonishment. The key to all success is learning and growth. The reason that this is the key to all success is because in any rewarding venture that takes longer than a few hours to complete, you almost always do things you've never done before. So in order to succeed, you must learn something you didn't know before you started in order to achieve your desired outcome. Can't figure out a thorny challenge? Then no success. Figure it out? You get to keep going! So to succeed wildly in life, you must have a passion for learning. That is why I continue to be more and more fascinated with the work I do. Because even though we are now into our 20th year of developing thought and behavior modification programs that are being used throughout the world, I am still very much connected with the feelings that most people have about their ability to change their thoughts, about what they think mental training is, about how most people feel that they are "set" in their ways of feeling and acting... that they can't change what they think or do. ...To me, this is similar to when I was a kid. Any other kids who played on school sports teams competing against my school were seen as the enemy. Nothing more. Because my whole world basically ended at the borders of our school district. Everything else was unknown. Those competing enemy combatants were seen as evil. We were "the good guys." I guess I watched too many cartoons as a kid... Pretty funny, looking back on that. And it's the same with our adult behaviors and our individual belief systems. Your beliefs (all the things you accept as true), are what guide all your decisions and behaviors. So if, let's say, while a friend of yours is driving you both to a party, you believe a bunch of your friends are going to be there, you are in a good mood, anticipating seeing them all and having a good time. But when you arrive, you see that your friends are NOT there! And not only that, a few people you absolutely hate are there. So your state of mind instantly goes down the drain. So the point is, if you knew ahead of time your enemies Were going to be at the party and that your friends Were Not going to be at the party, your mood would have been different as you drove to the party. In fact, you would have decided not to go at all. You would have changed your plans entirely. Either way, your decisions and actions were based on what you believed in the moment. This is what happens when we have faulty and disempowering thoughts and beliefs about yourself, your value, your capabilities and your "world" around you. When you think you can do something you have never done, you will attempt it. And you might even excel at it. If, however, you heard that the last person who tried the thing you are thinking about doing got killed, you will probably doubt your own chances of success. And you'll probably say, "Thanks but no thanks." But other people who've done it before successfully, could think, "But he made this mistake and that mistake. I won't make those same mistakes. Let's GO!" This mental pattern is called confidence or certainty. It reflects a lack of doubt. It is one of the 11 core mental success patterns. And the coolest thing is, just like any knowledge or skill, confidence can be learned. Yup. The literal mental formula for confidence comes in the form of dozens and dozens of core, foundational beliefs, thought strings, attitude and finally emotional habits that give a person the ability and desire to take a specific set of actions. When we created the program we call, Supreme Confidence we identified about 650 thought, belief, attitude, emotion patterns that I call confidence killers. They stop you in your tracks and make you immediately think, "I cant do it." These patterns in combination can set your heart a pounding, they make you sweat, they make you tremble, they make you cry. They make you give up at times when success is a hair away. These success killing mental patterns are learned and conditioned. That is why they are so dangerous. Because they are believed and defended by all of us who have them. And they're not all bad, mind you... Sure, many times our lack of faith is justified and actually smart. It can save us from embarrassment, injury, and even death. But most times, a lack of confidence is just plain wrong. And it limits us. Ok, enough serious stuff. Next time I give you something to laugh about  It's nice to be insane when No one is looking 
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6/14/2008 11:15 pm |
Love your post... A number of years ago a colleague and I started a very special program in a school. It never even crossed my mind that what we began would not succeed. We invited some other teachers to work with us to expand it, but the first words they said to us? "What if it fails?" And they wouldn't join us. So much fear....sigh... Wishing you happiness Misty
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6/15/2008 6:15 am |
mice to meet you
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6/16/2008 4:17 am |
Love your post... A number of years ago a colleague and I started a very special program in a school. It never even crossed my mind that what we began would not succeed. We invited some other teachers to work with us to expand it, but the first words they said to us? "What if it fails?" And they wouldn't join us. So much fear....sigh... The worst opinion comes from a pessimist. Never listen to them. But on the other hand, when someone gives me negative feedback, I am even more determined to succeed and to prove them wrong. I have done that several times, even with my current business. People said it would not work here, there isn't a demand for it, etc., etc. Only to find that after a year, they saw that I succeeded, and they tried to do the same ... but failed. As for anything, one has to know the ins and outs of the business one wants to do, and if you do not have the know-how ... forget it. Do something that you enjoy, not something where you hope to make big money, as that will never succeed. What did you try to do Misty? It's nice to be insane when No one is looking
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6/16/2008 4:24 am |
mice to meet you  It's nice to be insane when No one is looking
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